Activities From ‘Typically the Flow’ (four) – Misplaced Plus Discovered – Intended For you to End up being?


“Prosperity: The eternal circulation of all which is very good in daily life…”

*Underneath is the fourth episode in a collection of true existence functions skilled by the author. The only deviations from the fact could be the names of people and locations.

Mutually rejoice the triumphs, my pals. And marvel at the benevolence of the all-knowing, Authentic Substance (God, the Universe, the One particular, and so on.).

In “Encounters from ‘The Flow’ (one), (two), and (3)”, I went by means of heartbreak, worked earlier the misery, completed a Grief Letter, liked a partial recovery, relapsed, and then experienced an incredible come across with a impressive woman named Songsana (a gorgeous Asian News Reporter).

The uncanny resemblance amongst Songsana and the primary female character in the book “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor” – a book I wrote more than six months PRIOR to meeting Songsana – is a pleasant mystery to me.

Luck? Maybe. Fate? Almost certainly (with any luck ,).

– THE Research, THE DESPAIR –

It was the day after the Large School Sports activities occasion.

Conference Songsana yesterday was just what I necessary to remedy my relapse into publish-break up despair.

But it was a bitter/sweet expertise.
I was even now offended (at myself). I could kick myself for leaving her at the Stadium with out exchanging get in touch with data.

I could not call her. And I did not know exactly where she and her News Group have been remaining in Thailand. I couldn’t even contact her following she returned again to her residence place (Vietnam).

I decided to look for the world wide web for some way, any way to contact her.

All day – in between courses – at operate, I Googled each permutation of her name that I could believe of her country’s news stations, the mother or father German News Business that owned her information present plus the “Info” and “Yellow Web pages” of Vietnam. Zilch, nada – absolutely nothing.

All tries at finding Songsana on the web proved futile.

Discouraged, I could not feel of any other way to discover her and was compelled to give up the lookup.

“This will be THE Biggest 1 THAT Received Absent!” I considered.

I was resigned to my destiny.

And sullen, I acknowledged the situation: You will find no way to uncover Songsana and I will probably by no means see her once again.

That evening, I did an extra long treadmill operate and excess weight work out. It helped me deal with my disappointment and disappointment in excess of the “Look for for Songsana debacle”…


Every time I believe it is hopeless, the Universe usually actions in. The extremely hard gets to be achievable, despair turns into hope, and really like shines by way of the clouds. And with its benevolent, gentle hand I’m nudged again on training course toward my destiny, my personal personalized route.

Carl “J.C.” Pantejo (Dec 2007)

…Soon after doing exercises to pre-exhaustion and rehydrating with copious amounts of beer, I managed to collapse into a semi-coma, sleeping nicely into the morning.

Luckily, I experienced adequate forethought to set my clock, T.V., and cell phone alarms ahead of my sole drinking session commenced previous night. Soon after allowing the alarms seem off for a excellent five minutes, I dragged myself out of bed, gulped down two cups of java, showered, shaved, dressed, hopped on my motorbike, and manufactured it to function with 3 minutes to spare.

Although I didn’t have a bad hangover, I nonetheless felt a little weak and wobbly – like an alien experienced sucked the daily life pressure out of me.

And I was starving.

Most of my colleagues had been previously teaching, but right now I experienced the 1st period of time off – best for eating a gradual, relaxing breakfast. Slogging down to the faculty cafeteria, I acquired a standard Thai breakfast (spicy, fried hamburger, peppers, string beans, eggs, and rice).

I slipped into the teachers’ lounge/eating space. It was already total of Thai academics chatting away at every other, lazily making the most of their bowls of soup, rice, and plates of vegetables and fruit. They ended up used to me and acknowledged me with a respectful “Wai” (fingers jointly, prayer like, and touching the thumbs to the chin) or just nodded. Then they went back again to their chatter.

– THE MIRACLES Continue –

I will not like eating by yourself, so I scanned the dining location to see if any of my close friends had a course canceled and decided to eat breakfast.

Then, at the other end of the dining space, I noticed the again of an individual new. When she turned and spoke to the particular person sitting next to her, I saw the profile of her experience. I blinked two times and did a “Double Just take.”

I need to be hallucinating!

Like a zombie with tunnel eyesight, I little by little rose from my chair and walked unobtrusively in direction of the “apparition.”

“Songsana? Is that you?” I said tentatively.

“J.C.! There you are! I was right here at your college yesterday, but I could not uncover you. We’re (the News Crew) having some footage of Takraw (the common “volleyball-by-foot” activity of Asia) apply,” she mentioned, with her trademark, golden smile and prolonged hand.

With a shocked seem (and gaping mouth), I shook her hand with both of mine – all the whilst scarcely believing that she was right here!

Stuttering like one particular of my Substantial Faculty college students, I stated, “I did not give you my number at the Sporting activities Stadium. I…uh…searched the web all day yesterday for some way to make contact with you, but nothing at all came up. I tried out each keyword I could think of. But…I…umm…in any case, I’m so satisfied to see you! I considered that I would in no way…effectively…I gave up on…Oh hell, can I have your e-mail or telephone quantity?”

“Positive. Here is my organization card,” she said.

Glancing at it, I could see her perform and cellphone figures, her e-mail handle, and her company’s brand.

“This is my 2nd likelihood. I’m not shedding this!”

Smiling, I slipped her card into my shirt pocket, pressed it challenging in opposition to my heart, and winked at Songsana.

She giggled and smiled.

“Thanks Songsana. I would enjoy to sit down and speak, but I have to go educate now. Perhaps we can hook up just before the workday’s over? If not, I’ll phone or e-mail you true soon, alright?” I said, grinning from ear-to-ear. (I know my face must’ve been flushed.)

“Jeez! I am sensation like a seventeen calendar year previous child once again!” I believed.

“Alright. See ya,” she explained, cheerfully.

It wasn’t until finally then that I recognized that absolutely everyone in the space – Thai instructors and Digicam Crew alike – had stopped ingesting and conversing to observe the reunion amongst Songsana and me. When we finished our conversation the total dining space was silent, with all eyes on us. The appear of shock/confusion was painted on all of their faces.

I wasn’t ashamed at all. To me, this next, unplanned meeting was a blatant signal from the Universe. I genuinely considered that, for some purpose, Songsana and I were meant to cross paths (and not shed contact with each and every other)…

– MURPHY’S Regulation –

“Murphy’s Regulation: What CAN go improper, WILL go improper!”

…I went about my normal instructing working day on Cloud nine. All my college students discovered how happy I was. Some of the much more playful (and insightful) ones had been place on, hitting the nail on the head with comments like “Oooo-ooh, trainer has a new girlfriend.”

Effectively informed of my recent “find/decline/find” expertise, all my close friends chided me, saying that I often experienced all the luck – specifically with really like and women.

Unfortunately, Songsana and I had complete schedules. We smiled and waved to each and every other as I went from course to class and she went from job interview to job interview. We both have been so hectic that more time collectively right now would probably be not possible.

But that was ok. I prepared to phone her as shortly as I obtained residence. Then we could chat (or meet) privately.

Soon after a hectic workday and a swift work out, I located myself at property rifling via my gym bag for the shirt with Songsana’s company card. Finding it, I put it on my personal computer desk. As a backup, I desired to enter the info into my notebook. While it was booting up, I went to the fridge and grabbed a beer. I returned to the laptop computer and entered the business card’s info.

Getting into the data, I realized that all the contact numbers had been worldwide phone quantities – no local, Thailand figures.

“No problems. I will just e-mail her,” I thought.

I wrote a wonderful “Howdy, How are you? Here’s my cellphone amount” e-mail and pressed the send crucial. Contemplating all was nicely, I sat back and ongoing to consume my beer. My brain was loaded with hundreds of inquiries for her.

Then it transpired.

A “Warning: Mail Delivery Failure” concept appeared on my display. I pulled up the lately sent e-mail, rechecked and retyped Songsana’s e-mail tackle and despatched it yet again – identical, same: “Warning: Mail Shipping Failure.” I logged on to an alternate e-mail provider and attempted again.

No joy.

FOR PETE’S SAKE! I’ve Missing HER Once again! Possibly FOR Good THIS TIME!

Now I was genuinely indignant. Instead of hurrying off to class this morning, why didn’t I at minimum scribble my quantity on a napkin for Songsana? Why failed to I give her my variety in the course of our three “push-by’s” in the hallway today?

This sucks!

I known as all the quantities on the organization card.

No dice. Most of the numbers ended up not answered – such as Songsana’s house number. There was a single line answered, but the person on the other finish spoke no English (and I never converse Vietnamese).

This Truly SUCKS!

Experience forlorn, I authorized negativity to established in. Probably I was improper? Possibly we Weren’t meant to get to know each and every other afterall? Possibly this Discovering-Shedding-Discovering, then Getting rid of once again recreation was the Universe’s unwell idea of a joke?

Given that I didn’t know when and exactly where Songsana would be for the duration of the rest of her assignment in Thailand, my only recourse was to wait around right up until she returned house (about Christmas, five weeks away) and consider to get to her employing the worldwide house phone variety on the enterprise card.

“Hell, if that doesn’t work, I’ll just display up in her metropolis on my up coming prolonged weekend and ask close to for her!”

And with that believed, I accepted that I might dropped Songsana Once again!


It experienced been a number of days since my cellphone and e-mail failures. I was hectic acquiring prepared to go teach my Adult English course held on Sunday afternoons at a nearby Language Institute.

Then my mobile cellphone rang. It was my pal Ed (one more overseas English teacher at the Large College). Ed was a near pal. He understood the whole Located/Missing and so on. tale.

“Hey J.C. How are you? Hear, I may possibly be incorrect, but I heard from a single of our Thai teachers that there is certainly a Takraw match between our faculty and a Vietnamese school someday this weekend. I am not certain if it was yesterday or today. And I will not know the time it really is intended to take place either. Anyway, I believed you would like to know,” Ed explained – trying to instill some kind of hope.

“Many thanks a lot buddy. I will examine it out on the way to my Sunday work,” I said (politely, but with not significantly enthusiasm).

In Thailand educational institutions, particularly Govt schools, rumored- and even “hard scheduled” – events hardly ever materialized as planned. All things at the university appeared to commence according to the whim of the school’s Principal and executive personnel. Us “grunts” (the instructors) were routinely still left in the darkish right up until the previous 2nd.

Oh, what the hell. I guess it could not harm to depart 20 minutes early and pass by the university – just in situation.


Driving up to the college, I didn’t see considerably fanfare likely on. I parked my motorcycle and walked to the athletics building.

Outdoors was no proof of any eminent, huge sporting activities match.

The parking great deal was not full. I could listen to no cheering from the top ground basketball/badminton/Takraw courts. No households and pals of players have been loitering about the close by foods stalls.

Immediately outdoors the constructing was a booth for government voting registration. Inside of, on the initial flooring, was a very vocal PTA assembly (as usual, there was a heated discussion going on among a instructor and a mother or father).

With no elevators in this 5-tale building, I was questioning if the climb to the top floor was worth it.

I determined that considering that I might arrive this far, I need to at the very least make doubly certain that: one) There really is no Takraw match and 2) Songsana and the Digital camera Crew have been prolonged absent (possibly covering yet another substantial-profile celebration).

On the way up the stairs, I noticed some of my college students. I attempted to ask them if there was any sporting activities function right now, but their rudimentary English abilities (and my lame Thai language skills) prevented any significant communication in between us.

Achieving the fourth ground, I was starting to feel that I was squandering my time.

I stomped up the final flight of stairs and was achieved by yet another a few learners.

They all gave me a respectful Wai and 1 of them stated, “Excellent early morning instructor. Likely to observe the Takraw match today?”

“No, I have to teach at one more place quickly. But is the International Information Crew from Vietnam listed here right now?” I requested.

“Mai Roo (I never know),” they explained (in unison).

Strolling into the gymnasium, I observed a pair of Actual physical Education academics assembling the Takraw nets.

“When is the game?” I asked.

“Bai nueng (one:00PM). Gin kao (Did you try to eat/Have you eaten?).”

“Mai chai (no). Tang gnarm (operating/Heading to operate),” I explained.

– Miracle Quantity Three: One particular A lot more TIME –

Songsana walked in from the fifth storey balcony. The sunlight driving her developed a halo influence, producing her appear far more angelic than standard.

Making an attempt not to seem desperate (and failing miserably), I stated, “Songsana! Thank God, you might be right here. I couldn’t send any e-mail messages to the tackle on your company card. And I don’t have a nearby cellphone quantity for you. Here is MINE!” Then I quickly scribbled my phone amount and e-mail tackle on the back again of an previous seven-11 receipt from the bottom of my gym bag and handed it to her.

“Sorry. Sometimes the enterprise e-mail tackle receives screwed up – also much SPAM, I guess. Anyway, thanks for your quantity. Are you being to watch the match? We are taking pictures the previous scenes for our documentary right now,” she stated, trying to conceal her excitement about looking at me once more – and failing miserably way too. The smile was real and stunning.

Regaining a tiny of my composure again, I mentioned, “No. I’m sorry. I have to go to my weekend teaching task now. Make sure you, please will not get rid of my quantity and e-mail tackle!”

Then I hurried off to the Adult English course.

I arrived at the Language Institute a minor late, but it failed to subject. I had discovered Songsana – Once more.

– Content ENDINGS – Cannot Rely THE MIRACLES –

Throughout a split in the Grownup English class, I looked at my cell mobile phone.

There was one concept: “Hi J.C. It truly is me Songsana. This is my neighborhood variety although I am in Thailand. It was excellent to see you once more right now. Sorry we failed to have time to chat. This is my personal e-mail tackle…”

(EPILOGUE: I can’t depend the miracles. I lost and located Songsana several occasions. But the Universe wouldn’t let me to drop her forever nudging me again towards her anytime I strayed off system.

This tale has a pleased ending. She is active with her T.V. and News profession and I am occupied fulfilling my instructing agreement. To this day, Songsana and I text, e-mail, and contact each other on a daily basis. We plan on acquiring collectively quite, very soon…)

Your Good friend in this Intrepid Journey called Lifestyle,

Carl “J.C.” Pantejo

“Until finally following time, locate ‘The Flow’ and soar in!”

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bilnøkler : If you want to go through far more about beating heartbreak, unconditional love, exorcising past personal demons, and the Illusive Key of Joy, please go through the subsequent posts:

“Activities from ‘The Flow’: From Heartbreak to Pleasure”

“Ordeals from ‘The Flow’ (two): Coincidence or Synchronicity: FROM RELAPSE TO MIRACLES…”

“Activities from ‘The Flow’ (3): Lost AND Identified – Kindred Spirits and Errors made in Haste.”

“How Dare She! Out of Desperation I Uncovered How to Forgive”

“Keep in mind Who You Are!”

“Want to Mend Your Damaged Coronary heart? Go through on. Conquer Heartbreak and Understand the Illusive Secret of Happiness.”

By Carl “J.C.” Pantejo, Copyright December 2007

He is a retired U.S. Military veteran. Believing that school was way too dull, he dropped out of Substantial Faculty early only to earn an A.A., B.S., and MBA in less than four many years much afterwards in daily life – while functioning complete-time as a Navy/Marine Corps Medic. In spite of a fear of heights and deep drinking water, he totally free-fall parachuted out of airplanes and performed diving ops in really deep, open up ocean h2o. He went to Thailand 2 several years back for a week’s vacation, fell into a training task, and has in no way remaining!

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